ENID OTUN  AS a Black, female commercial pilot in Nigeria in the 1980’s and 90’s, I was starting to grapple with the big questions. What am I? Who am I? I never used the word gay. I never used the word homosexual. I had no issue with those words in themselves, I had just never thought about relating them to me. I realised that something inside me was saying that I was perhaps drawn more to women, but I certainly wasn’t in the right location for that to be happening. In Nigeria being gay is not well received. That’s putting…