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Banky W and Adesua Etomi heal from their twins’ loss

MPHO RANTAO

BANKY W and actress Adesua Etomi have gone through a long journey of healing and faith as a family. 

The Nigerian couple opened up about Adesua Etomi’s miscarriage, in a featured episode of The Waterbrook Series. 

“So we got pregnant and we got pregnant with twins. And we had gone for the scans, we had seen the heartbeats. At this point very few people knew what happened,” Etomi said.

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Adesua Etomi explained in the web series that during a routine visit to a doctor with her husband, the doctor had noticed the lack of heartbeats and knew immediately that something was wrong.

“Every report that you have heard was a lie because nobody knew what happened. So during a routine checkup, we went back to the hospital to have a scan and I just saw the doctor’s face…you know when something is wrong, sometimes you can tell.”

“She was scanning and scanning and I was like what’s wrong and she said ‘oh nothing’ and I looked at the nurse’s face and asked what’s wrong and she said ‘Adesua’ I’m looking for the heartbeats and I said ‘for the two of them?'”, Etomi said. 

Etomi went on to explain that she had collapsed in her home after her hospital visit as the news had shattered her and Banky W, once he learned of the miscarriage and found his wife heartbroken in their home. 

Banky W then told viewers that their heartbreaking news was only a fragment of their traumatic ordeal. 

“Monday or Tuesday came and we went for the scan, not only did we not see heartbeats but the embryos were shrinking, they were decaying. When we found out we were losing them and we needed to do an evacuation, it was a very emotional time for her,” he said.

Etomi continued, “When I got home, I literally collapsed on the floor and I wailed. Wailing is not the same thing as crying. Wailing is a deep groaning in your chest. It is like a nut that you cannot get rid of. 

“I am sharing this because so many women go through this but nobody talks about it because it is almost like a thing of shame for whatever reason and I don’t know why, because you don’t control your body; you don’t create yourself.”

Banky Wellington and Adesua at their wedding in 2017. Picture: Instagram

The couple then spoke about how they prayed fervently for strength and to heal from their traumatic experience, while simultaneously exploring the options of surrogacy and adoption. 

Adesua Etomi expressed that her religious beliefs helped her to stay strong in a difficult period that was further stressed by public rumours on the miscarriage, specifically targeting the health of both Banky W and Etomi. 

Banky W and award-winning actress Adesua Etomi met and married in 2017, at the height of their careers. A few months after Adesua’s miscarriage, the couple happily welcomed their first child early in 2021. 

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By The African Mirror

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