THE passing of Sis Thoko leaves a void in our hearts that can only be filled with cherished memories of her boundless love and unwavering support. As the youngest sister to our mother Mosadiotsile Florence, Sis Thoko embodied the African principle that motherhood extends beyond biological ties, becoming a second mother to us all.
Her impact on our lives was profound and far-reaching. With a keen eye for nurturing talent and a heart full of generosity, Sis Thoko played a pivotal role in shaping the futures of her nieces and nephews. Her gift of a Remington typewriter to me as a young, aspiring writer was more than just a material offering; it was the key that unlocked a lifetime of storytelling and journalism. This single act of kindness laid the foundation for a career dedicated to chronicling our shared history.
Sis Thoko’s influence extended far beyond career guidance. She was a guardian of culture and etiquette, imparting valuable life lessons with grace and patience. From the proper way to enjoy Simba chips without making a sound to the correct handling of cutlery, her teachings on decorum were delivered with love and have stayed with us throughout our lives.
Her attention to detail and emphasis on personal presentation were legendary. Sis Thoko understood that self-care and appearance were not matters of vanity but of self-respect and readiness for life’s opportunities. The watch she gifted me – my first – ensuring punctuality and style in high school, was just one example of her thoughtful nature.
To us, she was always and will always be ‘Sis Thoko’ – a term of endearment that reflected the unique bond we shared. Younger than our parents, she bridged generations, offering a relatable figure who could guide us through the complexities of youth and early adulthood.
Thoko Adeline Nwankentshani Radebe departed this world on 31 July 2024, leaving behind a legacy of love, grace, and inspiration that will continue to touch lives for generations to come. Born on November 1, 1954, in Dinokana, Zeerust, North West, Sis Thoko’s journey through life was marked by an unwavering commitment to family, faith, and personal excellence.
As the youngest of six children born to Phillip Hlatswayo and Betty Moipei Thobegane, Sis Thoko embodied the warmth and nurturing spirit of her family. Her role as a beloved aunt transcended traditional boundaries, as she became a second mother to her nieces and nephews, imparting invaluable life lessons with patience and love.
Sis Thoko’s professional life was as dynamic as her personal one. She built a successful career in the furniture industry, working for prominent companies such as Bradlows, Russels, and Beares. Later, she transitioned into real estate, showcasing her adaptability and drive as an agent for Chas Everitt until 2002.
Her marriage to the love of her life Msebenzi Timothy Radebe was a testament to enduring love. Together, they created a loving home for their daughters, Thembisile and Zanele, and later welcomed grandchildren Siyamthanda, Troy, and Travis. The depth of their bond was evident to all who knew them, with Sis Thoko’s anticipation of reuniting with her beloved husband in the afterlife speaking volumes about their connection.
Sis Thoko’s faith was the cornerstone of her life. As a devoted member of the Methodist Church, she was recognisable in her red, white, and black attire – colours she wore with immense pride. Her involvement with the church’s prayer warriors group was more than a commitment; it was a calling. Even when confined to a wheelchair for 18 years, her spirit remained unbroken, her faith unshaken. She continued to sing and sway to her favourite hymns, inspiring those around her with her resilience and joy.
Beyond her roles as a wife, mother, and church member, Sis Thoko was a beacon of style and grace. Her impeccable taste in fashion and her emphasis on looking one’s best were not mere vanity but a reflection of her belief in presenting oneself with dignity and respect. Yet, her true beauty radiated from within, touching all who had the privilege of knowing her.
Sis Thoko’s generosity knew no bounds. Her acts of kindness not only helped many but also embodied the African principle that motherhood extends beyond biological ties.
In her later years, faced with health challenges that confined her to a wheelchair, Sis Thoko demonstrated remarkable courage and positivity. Her daughters, Thembisile and Zanele, returned the love and care they had received, tending to their mother with unwavering devotion.
As we bid farewell to Sis Thoko, we celebrate a life lived with purpose, grace, and an abundance of love. Her legacy lives on in the hearts of her surviving sister, her daughters, grandchildren, and the countless lives she touched. Sis Thoko’s journey on earth may have ended, but her spirit continues to inspire, reminding us of the power of faith, the importance of family, and the enduring impact of a life lived in service to others.
Thoko Adeline Radebe was indeed one in a million – a shining example of love, resilience, and unwavering faith. Her memory will forever be a blessing to all who knew her, and her life story will continue to inspire generations to come.
We celebrate a life lived with purpose, kindness, and an abundance of love. Sis Thoko’s legacy lives on in the lives she touched, the careers she nurtured, and the values she instilled. She will be forever remembered as the epitome of what it means to be a wife, mother, grandmother, loving aunt, a second mother, and a true pillar of family and community.
